Temporary girlfriend vs wife: how to win with a Slavic man

 A recent trend has emerged of Western women actively seeking Eastern European men for dating or to build a more serious relationship with the aim of marriage, and statistics also show that Instagram and TikTok posts featuring Eastern men easily reach over a million views. 

In Australia, for example, a very high rate of intermarriage has been observed among male immigrants from Eastern Europe, many of whom involve an Australian bride, and exactly in Sydney I met the first couple made of an Italian woman and a Russian man, who inspired me to look for a Slavic husband for myself as well. But the trend seems increasing. 

There is even a trend among some Western women to no longer wish to have relationships with Western men, considering them unwilling to marry or to offer a serious commitment. Western men do not invest anymore much in relationships, and western dating culture has become a "hookup culture". By contrast, Eastern chivalry and a more traditional division of roles within the couple appear to be the main drivers motivating these women to seek out Slavic partners, in addition, of course, to the male aesthetic of these populations, often described as glorious, strong, and very virile.

All of this often intersects indirectly with the "tradwife" movement, a spontaneous movement of women who define themselves as traditional and who are looking for an equally traditional husband, willing to let them lead a homemaker lifestyle. This type of couple is often still in vogue in Eastern Europe, as are a set of social norms that fourth-wave feminists might call "patriarchal." Therefore, although Western tradwives don't explicitly seek Eastern European men, the two cultures are extremely compatible, and many Slavic men welcome the trend. They are especially enthusiastic about having access to Western women, and not only that: they have access to Western women who have remained feminine! This is a huge validation for Eastern European cultures.

However, there are some pitfalls that Slavic men should be wary of, when dating a feminine, interested western woman. Keep reading!

First, some women's passion for Slavic men sometimes has fetishistic overtones. Some women, as mentioned, may desire relationships ONLY with Eastern European men, which raises the question of whether this is a legitimate aesthetic-cultural preference or a true fetish. Personally, I believe it's merely a legitimate aesthetic, ethical, and cultural preference and not a superficial choice at all. Personally, I wouldn't want any further relationships with non-Eastern European men, because I've simply found myself very comfortable with Ukrainian culture, have partially made it my own, and, if in future I were in the position to have to seek for another husband, I would only like a partner who shares the same Ukrainian traditions that I love, and yes, I also like Slavic physical features, I am attracted by these men also physically. But the preference is primarily cultural, and therefore deeper than beauty. 

There are, however, other "dangers" that an Eastern European man must be wary of when dating a wonderful western woman who looks at him with heart-shaped eyes. 

THE MONEY SCAMMER

Unfortunately, as I've occasionally read online, there are some Western women who, having realized how generous and chivalrous Slavic men are, take advantage of them. They spend months in dating, getting gifts, dinners, flowers, and trips, in short the "princess treatment", but then they disappear when serious commitments arise. For example, a Croatian friend of mine told me how his Italian ex-wife had always said that she wanted a child or two with him, only to put it off year after year, teasing him until they divorced. And all this time, she was scrounging for dinners at restaurants because she didn't know how to cook, trips between Italy and Croatia, and the good life, all paid by him. The story made me disgusted and deeply sorry for him. 

Honestly, I know many more successful mixed couples than the Croatian example, but it's fair to warn both Western women and Eastern men about how things should function: a traditional relationship works if SHE also does her part, which essentially consists of taking care of herself, keeping the house clean and cozy, and giving her husband a few children. If she doesn't want to do the tradwife in the real sense, she should not bother Slavic men. In fact scammers damage the collective reputation of us western women who have a serious intention with Slavic men and a genuine love for Slavic culture. If you are not a "sister" go away. 

THE FEMINIST NIGHTMARE

Another type of scam or cultural conflict involves meeting a feminist Western woman, who may be attracted to the virile aesthetic of a Slavic man, but who doesn't match his expectations. This isn't so much a scam as a cultural conflict. He seeks a feminine, well-groomed, and gentle woman, but many Western women are aggressive and project a mannish energy around themselves. To have a successful relationship with an Eastern man, it's important to learn to adapt your behavior to softer forms of femininity typical of Eastern Slavic and of some Asian cultures. To do this, you need to unlearn many of the things we've been taught here in the West by the mainstream. To help you, blogs like mine exist. 

PARENTING STYLE 

Later, some conflicts may arise over the type of education to give their children. Slavic education is more rigid, hierarchical, and collectivist, while Western education promotes equality and individualism. However, many Westerners, as adults, become "spoiled brats," and a Western woman who marries a Slav must understand that her husband is the product of that more rigid upbringing. A Western wife must therefore step back and let her husband play a role, or seek his guidance on how to raise a little Slav and not another Western "spoiled brat".

OTHER CULTURAL CONFLICTS AND RED FLAGS FROM HIS POINT OF VIEW

There are some red flags that Slavic men perceive when dating Western women. If they detect one or more of these signs in a woman, he might dismiss her as a casual encounter or a girlfriend who will never become his wife. Becoming the wife of a good Slavic man is not easy and, in my opinion, winning the crown of western or Latin "waifu" of a Slavic man is a big honour. They are not desperate men who marry whomever happens, and I have never liked easy victories. So, here the red flags. 

As mentioned above, many Slavic men have noticed that some Western women are attracted to the princess treatment, but then don't want to take care of them or of the house in exchange. Many Slavic men perceive this as financial exploitation and the girl is often fastly declassed to "temporary girlfriend" or "not wife material". 

On the other hand, a girl who insists too much on paying their share can also turn off an Eastern man: they want to be seen as the alpha, the head of the household, not like buddies. It's fair to say that many of them aren't looking for an equal relationship in the western sense of the word, but one in which she is a traditional woman (this is why I recommend these men to aspiring tradwives). A western woman who is too emancipated and self absorbed, nor to mention also child-free by lifestyle, may be seen as interesting for an affair, but not suitable for becoming the wife of a Russian, Ukrainian, Polish, or other slavic man, as these men have a strong sense of honor, self respect and family (and imo they are just the best). By insisting to pay half of everything, a Slavic man may understand that she will never accept him as her leader/boss. In this sense, I have seen a couple (she Italian he Serbian) naufragate after the initial stage of passion, and, having talked to her, I know why: she was too feminist and too independent. On average, southern Italian woman and Latinas match better Slavic expectations. 

NEXT ON THIS BLOG: BEHAVIOURS TO AVOID WITH A SLAVIC MAN AND HOW TO WIN THE "TITLE" OF WIFE.